Dearest Sister,
I am overjoyed to hear about your escapades in London – verily, you have found your calling and your passion! You glow in every picture and your voice is a gentle joy. Never lose it.
Here at home things are fantastic: I gave my first pole warmup (which was wonky, but fun) and I pulled off a Superman on my first attempt! It’s basically this move:
(only I look more human – and thus imperfect – doing it)
And I feel complete. I feel like I was meant to do this. Like I could do this my whole life and not regret a single moment of it.
It got me thinking; I want my own pole soon. And I can already feel that the pole I will have will be one of my soulmates.
It’s interesting – I was set against the idea that one could have multiple soulmates in each lifetime. That somebody who is not a romantic interest cannot possibly touch on your life, or bring you the same satisfaction and fulfillment through relationship.
And yet I’ve already met a soulmate: Domme.
She was there even before my fall. And talking to her, having her as a support system inspired me to lift myself up. We have so much in common. We have so much to give to each other. I see her in my future and she sees me in hers. It’s like another part of me is in Cape Town.
And yet, it isn’t romantic.
We have a deep, profound love for each other and an intense desire for the other’s happiness. But we don’t desire a romantic and/or physical relationship with each other. She is as dear to me as my romantic soulmate. And I thought to myself: this is okay.
In no way does this mean that my romantic soulmate is redundant, or that he is less important. It just means that there are many manifestations of soulmate, and that you can love people deeply and equally with different kinds of love. I love Carin with the same depth and sincerity that I will love my romantic soulmate. But my love for my romantic soulmate will be a mix of agape and eros: pure and sensual love.
This was something that I struggled with for a long time, and is mostly why I became so obsessive of Ms Guevara and so insecure about her having deep connections to anyone who wasn’t me. I hadn’t understood this yet. And even now, I’m still struggling to determine the different types of love and accept that they can be on equal level. Not all love is romantic; not every touch is sexual desire.
Hope all continues to be fantastic this week! Love ya.
Your Sister